We have trouble focusing on what we need to sometimes, yes, but much of the time we are actually fixated on a beautiful little moment the world is missing from all its seriousness; light dancing on water, a new way to combine ingredients, or the fascinating book someone across the room is reading. We may not be watching the clock, as ADHDers are often late for everything, but we are watching.
One of the glorious moments of childlike freedom for me was two weeks ago when I discovered an extremely beautiful treehouse made with
And this new fixation of mine is not unusual in ADHD & Autistic communities. Most of my Neurodivergent clients can tell me long, detailed tails about their favorite things, the same excitement gleaming in their eyes as they try to tell me everything about it without taking a breath. We are creatures of whimsy, curiosity, potential, and great emotion and I wish for a world where more of us, but also more neurotypicals, can stay connected to this endless energy source. It has been a deep pain for me to see the light in some client's eyes go out as the world crushes their dreams over and over and punishes them for their levity and takes advantage of their good natures. The next best painter may not ever release their work as they may have been told too many times that they're just goofing off, the next best astronomer may not discover a new planet we could inhabit if this one dies because they were told they had their head in the clouds too much and to get inside and do their homework.
I wish for all of us that we lived in a world that embraced the innate curiosity and love of learning that exists in most of us before the world gets in the way; the part that looks at things we don't understand and just...wonders...rather than tears it down to try to maintain the illusion of order in the chaos we call life. Until then I'll be trying to keep my own spark of childhood glee alive and creating supportive spaces to protect and mend those who can still find joy in the most missable of things.
Neuroscience & Psych Professor (and proud Autistic & ADHDer)